The Middle of the Day
Listen to how often people apologise before they ask for anything. Sorry for the long message. Sorry to ring so late. Sorry, I know you are busy.
Half of that is manners. The other half is a quiet belief that they are a cost to the people who care about them.
You are probably doing it yourself. And the person at the other end, nine times out of ten, was glad the phone rang.
This page is not help, and I am not qualified to give it.
If you are struggling, please ring one of these. Both are better at it than anything on the internet, this page included.
This one is on other people. There are two others.